IN LOVING MEMORY OF MY BELOVED DAUGHTER RADAR EMUOBOR ELSIE AGBAJE
Recently I read a story of a woman who lost her husband and all her kids and I wept. In 2006, a medical Doctor and the wife lost their 3 kids in the ill fated Sosoliso Aircraft crash in Port-Harcourt, years later I tried to inquire what happened to that couple. I know it was not ok, for their world changed when that incident happened.
It is said that he who wears the shoes knows wear it pinches. Every day since the death of my daughter, I have shed tears at the lose of every loved child that I family has lost. My heart has been heavy each time because I have been there and now I know and every time I feel like stretching out my arms to say “ I know dear, its hard but its ok, he or she is resting now”.
It never goes away, the pains, the memories bring a fresh pain every year. You search for answers that are never given, you look for avenues or a hope that would have prevented it that is not found and all you are left with is an invisible tear that keeps you awake more nights than can ever be imagine.
Anniversaries like birthday comes and your heart bleeds. You walk, work, smile, eat, live like a robot. No one understands or knows what you are going through. Sometimes you wish to turn back the hands of time to say and do the things you never did but alas!!, its not to be.
Death is inevitable, it’s a journey all must go through one day. I only ask each time why now for every young one like my daughter snatched at the prime of their life due to the evil intention or non-intention of a fellow human.
The pains is all we the loved ones left behind can bear, there is no answer. I have tried to seek answers these 3years and have not gotten them but in this anniversary of my late daughter’s birthday, I know there is no answer for my family concerning this lost but only memories and memories and memories.
They will never go away, for we are humans but the strength to carry on is what we ask for and that is only in unity and love. I pray every day, just as I hurt every day and wish it was all different. I miss this angel that the Lord gave and death snatched so much and in hope know we shall meet to part no more.
So it is with every parent who hurts over there beloved lost kids, may the lord grant you too the fortitude to bear the lose for ever