The issue of discipline is a very dicey one in our present day society especially with most government regulations regarding this. As individuals and parents it affects everyone and how do we handle this.
I have heard many comment that the millennium generation does not need the type of discipline , the generation of the 20th century had. Really? I mean is this true?
There are many forms of discipline, I grew up in the 20th century but funny enough my mum was the disciplinarian in the family. The discipline that shaped my life and that of my siblings was not the “rod”. My mum of blessed memory could set us straight with a look or a point of her finger or even just the shuffling of her foot or the clearing of her throat or a sigh from her.
Once she does any of the above, whoever is involve knows what is expected next. Mama never raised her hands on her kids but these where disciplinary measures that set her kids and other kids around us straight.
And it borders me to see mum’s today think it can’t work with millenniums, who said so? I am using these same measures with my four year old and of course its working fine. I see no reason why we can’t all do same. Our kids needs guidance and discipline, to grow into responsible adults useful in our society.
I had this experience with some parents at a party a few months back at a party I attended with my four year old son. I have this rule I have developed in fun with my son about intake of candies, no consumption more than three candies at any given time and we have stuck to it. So here we are at this party with a bowl of candy on the table and every kid eating to their fill as they play. My son played and took his first two candies and later came around for one more which makes up the three.
So, a few minutes later like every child would do when other kids came to the candy table for more, my son also wanted more. I was seated with other mothers close to the table and as my son dipped his hands into the bowl of candy I cleared my throat with a little mock chuckle like. Immediately my son looked up at me and dropped the candy into the bowl, smiled and called me “mum” and walked off.
The mum’s close to me were shocked and asked why did he dropped the candy. I had to explain to them but everyone was surprise that I didn’t speak but only cleared my throat with a chuckle and my son understood. Yes! thats it. I have taught my son the same sign language my mama used as tools for discipline in the 20th century and who says it can’t work. it is working very well for me.
My son understands that he needs to stop whatever he is doing when I point my fingers or clear my throat. if I shrug my shoulders he understands that I mean whatever. My eyelids raised in a frown means be careful, and a shuffling of my foot means move it.
We all can do this as mums, discipline does not mean spanking or using the cane or rod there are a lot of ways to keep our kids in the straight and right path, we need to keep it in mind that our kids can become great with our help and its our duty to show them the right way to go, as long as we do it in love.
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